Are you
the type of woman whose orgasms occur as frequently as Haley’s Comet?
Do you think that women who reach orgasm every time they have sex
have been born with this ability? Well, don’t be fooled! Achieving
orgasm is a skill that takes practice to perfect. It is a problem
that affects many women but, often we feel uncomfortable discussing
it or we simply think it is our problem only. The inability to achieve
orgasm, or what is known as inorgasmia, is the most common sexual
complaint among women. Studies show that more than 63% of all women
experience inorgasmia once in their lifetime. Inorgasmia can be
classified into the following categories: primary, secondary, situational
and coital inorgasmia.
Primary inorgasmia is defined as a condition in which
a woman has never experienced an orgasm. Secondary inorgasmia is
defined as a condition in which a woman has experienced an orgasm
in the past, but is unable to experience an orgasm presently. Situational
inorgasmia is defined as a condition in which a woman is unable
to experience an orgasm during intercourse.
Contributing factors that affect the female sexual response
can be physical, behavioral, emotional or organic. Physical factors
that affect inorgasmia may be lack of pubococcygeal muscle tone
(a muscle responsible for vaginal tone), pressure sensitivities
in the vagina, or a couple’s “pelvic fit.” Behavioral factors may
include a woman’s inability to communicate her desires with her
partner regarding such issues as stimulation, timing (slow/fast),
and touch (hard/soft), that may help her successfully achieve orgasm.
Emotional factors that affect a woman’s ability to achieve orgasm
can range from anger to depression to guilt. Organic factors may
be due to a precipitating disease, such as diabetes or alcoholism.
Treatment for women who experience inorgasmia can be conducted
in group, couple, or individual therapy. Early behavioral therapeutics
may consist of using erotic literature with directed masturbation
techniques. Sexual dysfunction therapists may use enhancement techniques
in phases over a three-month period. This consists of relaxation,
muscle strengthening, dual stimulation, coital positioning and coital
pacing. Sexual dysfunction therapists work with the individual and/or
couple until the inorgasmia is resolved.
Being in touch with our sexuality, that is, knowing our
sexual needs and desires, and being able to communicate them to
our partners, is essential to adding intimacy to loving. It is so
important for women who cannot achieve orgasms to know there are
specialized therapists, who can help, so satisfaction can be achieved.
Don’t be afraid to ask your doctor, you are not alone. Also, if
you are located in the USA (or are going to be visiting soon) The
American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists
(AASECT), based in Washington D.C. will provide a complete list
of qualified sex therapists.
The fact is, achieving orgasm is a vital part of every
woman’s sexuality. Seeking the advise of a specialist, becoming
aware of the possible solutions and realizing you are not alone
is the first step in attaining what is known to many as “happiness
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by
Lisa Franzoni
CRNP, MSN
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This
article is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment for
any medical conditions. You should promptly seek professional medical
advice if you have any concern about your health or physical condition,
and you should always consult your physician before following the
recommendations presented here.
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Melt Magazine 2001 |
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